sense and senses

have you ever met someone (in person or not) whom you hardly know and yet somehow feel connected with him/her? it seems like you have known him/her long enough for you to be able to communicate with him/her. you think you could understand this person and the needs. and this person has exactly the same sentiments towards you. this sense of belonging, i reckon, often emerges because gaps exist in our lives. i strongly believe that every one of us, no matter how successful we are, has some gaps in our lives that yearn to be filled. hence, when someone comes along in our lives, this sense of belonging surfaces. perhaps, this also reflects our lack of contentment in our own lives, a phenomenon that often occurs.

so what do we do when this someone appears? do we start building a relationship? do we maintain communicating with this person at the acquaintance level? or do we even bother doing anything?

it’s the wee hours in the morning and i’m no longer sure if i’m sane when writing this post.

a haiku to sum up my babbling…

beneath the colours
lies an affection that stirs
a magnum opus?

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  1. Hi CS, I understand this idea of conenctions, but perhaps I have a different way of looking things. If we start off in life as a small kernel of something then the connections we make throughout life help us grow. Sometimes those connections with others cause cracks or break us, but we stop and put ourselves back together, slowly or not so slowly.
    At some point in our growth we become aware that just as others can crack or break us we can crack and break others too. So is your connection one which will help you grow, or one that may cause pain? If you can answer that, then maybe you can start to answer some of your own questions.
    Hope this helps.

  2. CS, my answer to your first question is “yes”, no doubt about it. It happened to me. However, I don’t think it means necessarily a lack of contentment in our own lives. Maybe that person just struck a chord that hasn’t been played before. We’re changing, we’re growing all the time – our hearts and souls are big enough for many relationships, without damaging established ones.
    The second set of questions is trickier though. It depends on how strong your feelings are and also what you really mean by building a relationship. Great things could be gained, or could be lost. Maybe, sometimes, it’s better to keep the illusion intact and thus keep the distance, be content with the bits and pieces that fuel this sense of belonging you had in the first place.
    Splendid haiku.

  3. Ladies, you wowed me with your insights. Thanks!

    I figure that this connection could make me a better person in one way. But if not managed properly, it could break me too. I’ll think about it carefully, Verilion. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    “our hearts and souls are big enough for many relationships, without damaging established ones.” This is so true and enlightening, Vesper. And yes, several options I must weigh before anything is done. Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Yes, CS, it has happened but I am often careful these days about building relationships, preferring to choose friends and acquaintainces very carefully.

  5. will do just that, Susan. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  6. What amazes me is that this connection is not just obvious when you meet someone in the Real World, but also here in the blogosphere … seems like a gift to me!

  7. So many degrees of connection, so many connections. Yes, yes, yes is my answer (to, I think, all the questions posed).

    You mentioned that you posted in the “wee hours of the morning” and you worried about your sanity. Well, your post was immensely sane and you even wrote a haiku to boot!! My goodness, that is very impressive!!!

    Welcome back, by the way.

  8. Debi, you have given me a new perspective. Yes, sounds like it is really a gift. Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Thank you for making my day, GT! And I’m glad I’m not alone having such feelings or sentiments. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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